Monday, August 11, 2008

Very Sad News.

A friend of mine just died. Just like that, all in a moment.

Not many of you know him, or perhaps you do, and if you are finding this out now, I am sorry to be the one to tell you, but he was Snot, of Puke and Snot at our Renn Faire.

His name was Joe Kudla.

Paul and I opened for them for three years. They were the biggest act at the festival and so many people would show up so early to see him, and his partner, Mark Seive, that they needed an opening act.

Everything I know about comedy, I learned in those three years, working with Joe and Mark, watching them, learning from them.

I learned what made a joke funny. That it wasn't the joke, it was the way you told it.
I learned about timing, and that when you did something, and how, was as important as what. I learned that doing Nothing with the right expression or your face, or the right look at the audience at the right time, was as effective as doing Something.

I learned that performing in front of a huge audience was very different than a pub audience. And I learned how to do it.

I learned when to improv, and when to stick to the script. I learned that when improv was funny, you put it in the script.

Today I learned that something really, really cool is gone, and won't be happening again. The show would have started in 5 days, and I was so looking forward to seeing them again. Now I am sitting here thinking that people just can't die, for no reason, just like that. It wasn't something I thought would ever end, tho Paul and I had moved on from performing there. Not like this.

There's a lesson there, too, to be learned.

I would send my love and sympathy out to Joe's family, to his daughter, (our "Ice Maiden") and to his partner in comedy, Mark.

Damm. I will miss him.

Love, Lorraine


At 3:31 PM , Blogger Rubius said...

I am sorry for your loss, Lorraine.

At 4:15 PM , Blogger AletaMay said...

Oh Lorraine, I am so sorry. I did not know him but certainly knew of him and had seen him perform. It is a loss for the whole community of course, but so much more so for those of you who called him friend.


At 4:25 PM , Blogger Malena said...

Dev, He looks so young. There is nothing harder than an unexpected Death. Please know we all love you.

I saw you open for P&S when you took me to the renn faire. It was the BEST faire in the US, btw. These two guys were really hillarious.

You should know, Dev, that everyone who sees you on stage says how FABULOUS and FUNNY you are, what a great entertainer, etc. I could go on and on.

We are all with you.

Love ya!

At 5:52 PM , Blogger Turtle said...

Ms. Lorraine,

I am so sorry for your loss. I didn't know him, but I grew up as a regular fest patron and have volunteered out there for the past few years. One of my iconic fest requirements was to watch Folk Underground followed by Puke and Snot at least once a year.

Wishing you peace,

At 7:03 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I never knew him personally, but they worked my home faire (Maryland) several times and I enjoyed their act. I know how big a hole that kind of loss can leave in a Festival.

At 7:09 PM , Blogger ivenotime said...

What sad news, I'm so sorry. He sounds like he was a wonderful performer, and will be missed by many. My sympathy to you, his family, and friends. I agree with Malena that unexpected death is terribly difficult. Please take care, we love you!

At 7:27 PM , Blogger ariandalen said...

Oh, Ms. Fabulous.
A sudden death is so hard on all involved. While I did not know him, I saw Puke and Snot at Texas Renaissance Festival and Scarborough Faire around 15 years ago, maybe a little longer.


At 7:32 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Lorraine,
My sincere condolences. I too knew Joe, if only in passing. This news has really shook alot of the rennfest community.

I met Joe of the MD RenFest. I am an artisan there and they performed on the stage in front of my booth for a season. I shared a chat at the pub with them many times and Joe was always so pleasant. To say this came as a shock across much of the boards and forums is understatement. We all seem to go "just in a minute" but some come as a greater surprise than others.

By way of introduction, and in such unfortunate circumstances, you and I have met once, briefly, before, at BaltiCon. I am an contributing editor for Faerie Magazine, in addition to being a maskmaker at, and we used a poem by Niel in an issue.

Once again, my deep sorrow and I can say that the Ren Circuit will be less bright place for the loss of him.

In much Peace,
Shane Odom

At 7:39 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I wanted to say something else.

It is always a surprise as to how small a world it is. I never knew you had worked the RenFest scene, having only just started reading your blog.

It shows that in death we discover the many lives that we touch. Joe did that. The teens that I work with in a Unitarian Universalist Youth Group perform, with type of reverence, Puke & Snot's Pirate skit at their youth events. It is such a tradition, that if one of the regulars who performs it can't make it, there is a written script to be taken up. I will see some of these kids soon, as MDRF is starting soon and some of them work at it. I don't look forward to breaking the news, but I imagine that Pirates and comments on Poop Decks and the laughter it creates will continue.

At 8:02 PM , Blogger pantagruel said...

Oh, I'm sorry, Quiche.

I saw the news on AFR today. I'd seen P&S once, when I came out to see the Minnesota Faire one summer. They were an awesome act -- such great timing.

There's something about friendships out at Faire that make them more special because we see them so infrequently, and you share time in a life a bit outside the norm. It always seems like a great outdoor Cheers, to me. Which makes it all the more poignant.

I'll go bust out the single-malt for you and Snot.

At 8:18 PM , Blogger FabulousLorraine said...

Thank you all so much for your words, they truly do help so much. Please, share some memories, it makes it better.

Joe and Mark spent 35 years making people happy. That has to count for something.

I spoke with Mark, via e-mail today, he says it hasn't properly hit him.

I don't have it in me to say anymore tonight. But please keep up your words, I need them.

I will be going out to the Fest this weekend, feel like I need to.....

At 10:08 PM , Blogger spacedlaw said...

Sorry to hear about your (and many others') loss.
He sounds like a great guy. But what you learned from him will stay with you and therefore a part of him will remain alive in you and in the hearts of those who knew and loved him.

At 1:15 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry Lorraine.

At 5:18 AM , Blogger Dan Guy said...

Oh dear! I'm so sorry.

He looks like a man capable of excellent RennFaire-style comedic stylings.

At 6:47 AM , Blogger gaypet said...

Oh dear! I am so sorry, Lorraine. He clearly left you with some wonderful memories. The hole left, however, for you and so many others is cavernous! The RF will be forever changed.

Hugs and healing to you and all those feeling this loss.

At 7:26 AM , Blogger Jess said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, Lorraine. He looks and sounds to have been a marvellous person, mentor, and friend, someone who brought others a great deal of happiness; I don't doubt that some of what he gave onstage still lives on in your own performance, and in the performances of others who knew him and learned from him. You're all part of that legacy, in a way. Take care.

At 7:31 AM , Blogger EmilyLady said...

I always find it difficult to convey real sympathy and sorrow through the Internet, but I really am enormously sorry to hear about this. I'm sorry for you and also for his family and the rest of his friends. I wish this hadn't happened. Nothing is more frustrating than when life happens in a way that's unfair to its inhabitants.


At 8:33 AM , Blogger FabulousLorraine said...

Thank you al! It is true, what I learned from him does carry on, and will. And he did spend his life making people happy. Making them laugh, and at the end of the day, go home with some great memories.

He was loved by a lot of people.

Can one ask for any more?

I have a strange and fun story for you tonight.....One of the Truth is Strange Than Fiction stories....

At 8:43 AM , Blogger scored4life said...

I didn't sleep well last night at all and I found myself going over as many of the times that I spent with Joe as I could remember. Out of it all, some strikingly simple pictures formed.

He was first and foremost an amazing father. Lorraine and I were privileged to watch his daughter grow and mature throughout high school and enter college. Even though we only saw them for moments during those seven weekends each year, they entered our hearts and made us better for it.

Secondly, he was an amazing artist and performer. His professionalism and his love for his craft were an inspiration to observe. He was the consummate straight man who no matter how hard he tried to mask himself, could never stop the most wonderful impish light from shining behind his eyes.

I learned so much about life just by being around both Mark and Joe. I don’t quite know how to think about one without the other and I try to stay focused on the fact that this loss isn’t about me.

Yet I (we) are the ones left to dwell upon it and I’m finding myself trying to remember everything about him, to hold tight, and not let go…yet he is still gone and the world shines a little less brightly and the heavens shine a little more. He will be greatly missed.

I am a better person for having known Joe Kudla. I truly know no better compliment.

At 10:58 AM , Blogger Beez said...


I am sorry for the loss you must feel. I only knew Joe a little from when he and Mark were at Dudley Riggs, but Oh! those men were wonders together as an act and fun and wonderful people offstage.

Healing and love to all who loved him.

At 12:32 PM , Blogger Fabulous Lorraine said...

That was really lovely, Dr Score....And I second every bit of it.

Hi Shane, I do remember you, and I think I bought Dr Score one of your masks, and I am a big fan of Faerie Magazine! Nice to see you here, no matter the circumstances.

Thanks, Turtle, those were good shows. It was like a family you saw once a year. It was sad to stop, but it was simply too much for not enough$$ and it's always best to know when to leave. I am going out on Sunday, just to be there.

Mark Sieve, AKA Puke has This to say....

At 12:54 PM , Blogger AletaMay said...

I've been reading things about Joe throughout the day on various blogs and news sources. It is such a great tribute to the man and his life to see the great love being expressed here and everywhere.

At 1:45 PM , Blogger Fabulous Lorraine said...

I've been reading too. Mark is going to do the show.

I admire that in him, that he would keep it going, as I am sure that is what Joe would want, but I am not at all sure I would be strong enough to do so....

At 2:26 PM , Blogger AletaMay said...

Yeah, I can't imagine how hard that would be on so many levels.

At 3:17 AM , Anonymous Marjorie said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, He sounds like a wnderful person who will be missed. I do hope that his friends and familyare able to take some comfort from the many people who clearly valued him.

At 6:28 AM , Blogger FabulousLorraine said...

Thanks, Marjorie, Mark says it does help.....

At 7:26 PM , Blogger Liz said...


I just learned of this today, through another friend.. Apparently I have been hiding under a rock. This is truly a tremendous loss, and our hearts go out to you and all of Joe's family and friends.

-Liz (and Pat too of course) your "minions"

At 7:47 PM , Blogger FabulousLorraine said...

Hi Minion, long time. Thanks for commenting, it is very sad new indeed. I'll be out at the Faire on Sunday, not sure if your still there, but if you are we'll have a hug...

Hellos to Pat....Miss you guys!

At 11:00 PM , Blogger Bran said...

I'm not sure how I've missed this on my various boards and listservs, but this is the first I've heard of it. ::blink:: Wow. This'll take some time to digest.

Well, I see my friend Wildwose (Shane) has beaten me to the punch, but I just want to echo his sentiment that the faire circuit will be just that much less bright for the loss of Joe.

And I am so, so sorry that you have lost a friend.

I am sure that when our faire (Maryland) starts up next weekend we certainly will be sharing memories and stories, as you suggested we do in the comments. He truly left a brilliant (and funny!) legacy behind.

At 8:39 AM , Blogger FabulousLorraine said...

Hi Bran, I am sorry you just found out. He will be greatly missed. And my heart sore for a long time.


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